Monday, February 7, 2011


What is Love???...This is 1 question people never seem to find an answer to because we all have different definitions to it,i remember being asked what it was back in school and after cracking my head i said it was THE LEAVE OF VARIOUS EVIL...i did not know where that came from but as far as i am concerned it saved me from getting a scary frown from the catechism teacher lol.Our Dictionaries tells us that LOVE "is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection towards a human,an object or a fun thing we occupy ourselves with as humans".Mary J Blige gave a definition of LOVE in her song "WHAT IS LOVE" she said its Beautiful, horrible, magical, terrible.Reason to laugh and smile,Reason to cry yourself to sleep at night,Start a fight. Make up,Break up,Wrong or Right,It feels like joy, It feels like pain,It feels like sunshine, It feels like rain,Its an excuse for dying and a Reason to live.If you ask me,i think this by the way seem to be the best definition or description giving to love..
Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.  
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true.   heart: what is loveLove can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all.   A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said "Love all".
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship.  The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it. 
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars.   Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect. 
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.As  William Shakespeare would say... "LOVE ALL,TRUST A FEW,DO WRONG TO NONE"........               



  1. 1) Thanks for visiting and following my blog. :-)
    2) This is such a great post. I love that you said: "Love should be experienced and not just felt". Oftentimes, people (myself included) think of love as an emotion. They search for feelings, but if that's all we base our love on, then it's fruitless. Love is an action verb. Through good times and the bad, we should constantly show each other our love.... lovely post!

  2. Thanks for the comment and yes love has to be experienced and not just felt coz its an action for your blog,i had to follow coz u got good stuff up there and that i like :) U can follow me on twitter too @itsdidi.