Sunday, July 31, 2011

Let God Do The Pushing For You ......

Hello Blogsville!!!! How have Y`all Been??? I have been good, just been busy with trials and after which i went on a mini vacation before Pre-season. Pre-season is a period where Footballers go through hectic drills just to get ready for the new season. This Year`s Pre-season begins in late August,knowing how crazy pre-season can be my usual preparation mode was to try take my mind of it coz thinking how hectic it is alone is enough to make you wanna Quit. I developed a whole new attitude after last year`s session after having a chat with a Local who was a trench digger. It was 5am in the morning ,we assembled at the base of a mountain in the blistering cold. Fitness coach tells us we have 1hr  to  get up the mountain , do another 2km run and the report back to base.

We were followed by the team bus and were handed water or being picked up if we fail to make it,being picked up means you are not ready for business and you not gonna get signed for that season. So no matter what happens U dare not get on the bus. We all made it up,did the 2km run and back to base but not under an hour coz we could barely lift our legs after getting up the Mountain. All the Coach wanted was for us to make a good time and he was impressed  coz we were only 15mins late.

We went back to our hotel,had breakfast took a nap and woke up to have lunch. After lunch i decided to take a walk, i got to the junction sat at the bus stop where i met the trench digger. We exchanged pleasantries,got talking and he told me he saw us run up the mountain. Immediately i started to tell him how tedious it was and how hard you had to push yourself in order to beat time and all that,i felt i was not making sense coz he did`t seem interested ,well what does he know he is not an athlete so he would not understand. 

1 of My Motivational Tees...
He looked At me and said that is hard, but look You ran for just 1hr,i`m a trench digger and i dig from 6 to 6 . 6 to 6 ??? i asked and he said yes and the also had to meet a dead line coz it was a telecom project and their contract would be terminated if they don`t. Before i met this guy i felt i had the hardest task of Pre-seaon but after meeting him i thought otherwise. I asked how he does it,how does he manage to go day in day out just digging,its crazy and its enough to make you break down. I don`t do anything he said,i just ask GOD to do the Pushing for me,although painful and tedious i know he controls  every swing of the digger.
I left the bus stop knowing that choosing to be alone or asking GOD for help is my choice to make & trust me,i let him do the PUSHING for me.

No matter what field,industry or situation you find yourselves always remember to ask GOD to do the Pushing for you. :)

 Moi Standing on the protection rail at the Mid-Section of the mountain.

Becca - Push ft King Ayisoba & Trigmatic


Monday, July 4, 2011

Domestic Violence.

Hello Blogsville!!!! How was your weekend??? Hope you all had an awesome 1. I would like to say happy 4th July to all Americans home and abroad and to everybody observing this day including moi :) .

Now to today`s post, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. I decided to do this post coz i want to join the hundreds of thousands of millions voices saying NO to this barbaric act. We all agree that crazy stories about this act has been  hitting the headlines lately and in an alarming way. I have always thought Domestic Violence had to do with just hitting  your partner but my research i realized there is MORE to it than what we think.  . 


Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
  • Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
  • Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
  • Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
  • Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
  • Does not want you to work.
  • Controls finances or refuses to share money.
  • Punishes you by withholding affection.
  • Expects you to ask permission.
  • Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
  • Humiliates you in any way.

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:

  • Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
  • Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
  • Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
  • Scared you by driving recklessly.
  • Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
  • Forced you to leave your home.
  • Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
  • Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
  • Hurt your children.
  • Used physical force in sexual situations.

You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
  • Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
  • Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
  • Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
  • Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
  • Held you down during sex.
  • Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
  • Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
  • Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
  • Ignored your feelings regarding sex.     via
If you in a way fall victim to any of the above mentioned,then your guess is as good as mine. We all have to get enlightened.