Monday, February 28, 2011

Thank GOD for Women....


 This morning i woke up and after my usual word of prayer,  i sent my girl a text, called MAMA & my sister to say hi!!. Then it hit me that we MEN who claim to be BOSS don`t exist without women & sadly they mostly get acknowledged on mother`s day. i like to use the medium  to give honor to WOMEN around the globe coz they work tirelessly 24 hours a day to make the world go round ! DO U NEED THE REASONS WHY??...here is a few.. they cook, they clean, they are there as a  parent, as a teacher, as a referee, as a nanny, as a nurse, as a handyman, as s maid, as a photographer, as a councilor, as a chauffer and as a comforter to mention a few... They don't get holidays, sick pay or any days off.... They work through the DAY and NIGHT.... They on call 24 hours!!! Now its our Job as MEN to LOVE, HONOR & CHERISH OUR WOMEN!!! So on behalf of all MEN Around the world I say Thank you , ευχαριστώ , תודה , asante , grazie , धन्यवाद , คุณขอบคุณ , 謝謝 , Спасибо , merci , شكرا , paldies , děkuji  :) 

Monday, February 7, 2011

LOVE

What is Love???...This is 1 question people never seem to find an answer to because we all have different definitions to it,i remember being asked what it was back in school and after cracking my head i said it was THE LEAVE OF VARIOUS EVIL...i did not know where that came from but as far as i am concerned it saved me from getting a scary frown from the catechism teacher lol.Our Dictionaries tells us that LOVE "is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection towards a human,an object or a fun thing we occupy ourselves with as humans".Mary J Blige gave a definition of LOVE in her song "WHAT IS LOVE" she said its Beautiful, horrible, magical, terrible.Reason to laugh and smile,Reason to cry yourself to sleep at night,Start a fight. Make up,Break up,Wrong or Right,It feels like joy, It feels like pain,It feels like sunshine, It feels like rain,Its an excuse for dying and a Reason to live.If you ask me,i think this by the way seem to be the best definition or description giving to love..
Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.  
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true.   heart: what is loveLove can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all.   A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said "Love all".
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship.  The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it. 
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars.   Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect. 
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.As  William Shakespeare would say... "LOVE ALL,TRUST A FEW,DO WRONG TO NONE"........               

                                               

Thursday, February 3, 2011

AN ANGEL IN DISGUISE....

She is the most comforting,the most charming,she is the best thing that ever happened to me..i sometimes wonder how lucky i must be or how blessed i am or what i have done for GOD to smile down N give me this ANGEL who is always lying to be human...I sometimes panic coz its difficult when this ANGEL IS  4179.07 km to the EAST and i have to travel at the speed of 700nuts in order to make it there in 5hours 30mins "No BIG DEAL"....I wake up everyday with 1 thought in mind,that is how to say thank you to this ANGEL coz she has been there through thick and thin,rain,shine and whatever weather mother nature has for the day and the most fascinating thing is she always gives u a reason to smile even if she is not in the best of moods...I am gonna be forever in debt to this ANGEL and so help me GOD i am gonna love her forever and not even 6ft beneath the earth crush can change the kind of feelings i have for this ANGEL....I look forward to meeting this Mysterious ANGEL and i pray that we gonna rock A PARTY....NAKUPENDA CHELALANG!!!!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Simple Facts Of Life....

You cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. 

No matter how much I care, some people just don't care back. 

It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it. 

Its not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts. 

You can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something. 

You shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do. 

You can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. 

Its taking me a long time to become the person I want to be. 

You can keep going long after you can't. 

We are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel. 

You control your attitude or it controls you. 

Regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. 

Heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences. 

Money is a lousy way of keeping score. 

My best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time. 

Sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up. 

Sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel. 

True friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. 

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. 

Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated. 

You should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it. 

Your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny how people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't always biological. 

No matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. 

It isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself. 

No matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief. 

Our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. 

Just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do. 

We don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change. 

You shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever. 

Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different. 

No matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process. 

Your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you. 

Even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help. 

Credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. 

The people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon. 

It's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe. 

Life can be very confusing,complicating N at some point unbearable so no matter what situation U find yourself in,always remember that LIFE IS LIKE A COIN WITH 2 SIDES AND HAS GOT PLEASURE AND PAIN ON BOTH,ONLY 1 SIDE IS VISIBLE AT A TIME BUT REMEMBER THE OTHER SIDE IS WAITING TO TAKE ITS TURN.......